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When you're really ready to get back into dating with a view to a relationship, a great way to get started is to raid your friends' pantries.
Everyone you know has secret single friends in other social circles or at work that are just waiting to be set up with you.
Go for bike rides, visit galleries, have a brunch alone with a good book—whatever it is that you like doing, go and do that.
Once you realize how great your own company is, and start developing a solid idea of yourself as a single individual, you'll feel more confident going into dating other people.
When you're in a relationship, you tone down your flirtation a lot, or at least you should if you don't want to get in trouble with your partner.
And while everyone flirts a little, the kind of flirting you do when you're in a relationship isn't the type of flirting that's overt or designed to lead anywhere. When you meet people you're attracted to, practice putting your signals out by flirting.
Tinder sort of happened right when I got into the beginning of what is now a long-term relationship, but I'm aware that most of my friends are meeting people this way now.
But a good way to dust the relationship cobwebs off is to reconnect with that person who, for whatever reason, you never wanted to date and they never wanted to date you, but the two of you were perfectly great bedroom partners who were happy to have sleepovers and even breakfast in the morning without any awkwardness. You can have a few drinks, and socialize with both your friends, friends of friends and strangers.
A lot of time talking about your childhood, your hopes and dreams, and trying to put your best self forward; It's a lot of time forcing yourself to open up and trust someone enough to show all your soft sides with the promise that they would treat those vulnerable bits with care. And often the thought of starting that process over with someone new—someone you're all too aware it might not even work out with—only for you to have to start it YET AGAIN, can see completely exhausting. So dating is imperative if you want to have sex, and are turned off by the idea of drunk one-night stands with strangers you met in bars, which is perfectly fine.
Sex is more fun both with someone you trust, and someone you do it lots of times with and therefore get better at, anyway.
Call that person, and see if they're up for getting back into bed with you. A group social situation can help ease you into meeting people without the pressure of one-on-one dates, which can understandably feel like way too much to jump into right away after a breakup.
Because half the struggle of getting back into dating is not only imagining yourself being with someone else, but actually physically being with someone else. And I hear they have cute people in bars and at parties.